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  • Still Points North: One Alaskan Childhood, One Grown-up World, One Long Journey Home
    Still Points North: One Alaskan Childhood, One Grown-up World, One Long Journey Home
    by Leigh Newman

    Can't wait! 

  • Einstein's God: Conversations About Science and the Human Spirit
    Einstein's God: Conversations About Science and the Human Spirit
    by Krista Tippett
  • The (Honest) Truth About Dishonesty: How We Lie to Everyone---Especially Ourselves
    The (Honest) Truth About Dishonesty: How We Lie to Everyone---Especially Ourselves
    by Dan Ariely
  • Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up
    Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up
    by Harriet Lerner
  • Rhythm And Repose
    Rhythm And Repose

    Tender and beautiful. 

  • Boys & Girls
    Boys & Girls
    by Alabama Shakes

    Love this album! So happy when I saw BrainPicker post this on her site! 

  • City of Refuge
    City of Refuge
    by Abigail Washburn

    Pure magic!

  • Some Nights
    Some Nights
    by Fun.
  • She Ain't Me
    She Ain't Me
    by Carrie Rodriguez

    I'm such a fan. 

  • I'm Your Man
    I'm Your Man
    by Leonard Cohen

    Take this Waltz is on my top ten list of all songs!

  • Babel
    by Mumford & Sons
  • Masterpiece Classic: Downton Abbey (Original UK Unedited Edition)
    Masterpiece Classic: Downton Abbey (Original UK Unedited Edition)

    So totally addicted to this series! Absolutely amazing!

  • Zen: Vendetta / Cabal / Ratking [Blu-ray]
    Zen: Vendetta / Cabal / Ratking [Blu-ray]
    starring Rufus Sewell

    Based on your recommendations from a recent blog post! It's another wonderful BBC mystery series! 

  • The Good Wife: The First Season
    The Good Wife: The First Season
    starring Julianna Margulies, Chris Noth, Josh Charles, Matt Czuchry, Archie Panjabi

    One of the best shows on TV. Juiliana Marguiles is incredible. 

  • Doc Martin: Collection - Series 1-4
    Doc Martin: Collection - Series 1-4
    starring Martin Clunes, Caroline Catz, Lia Williams, Stephanie Cole, Ian McNeice

More fun news! 

1. We just found out that Part II of Super Soul Sunday will air on 3/24! They're extending the season so the two episodes that Oprah and I taped can run on consecutive Sundays.  

2. If you're hosting a brunch or having friends over to watch this weekend, email us some pictures and I'll live tweet them on Sunday. I'm having some move-a-body friends over. Rather than be self-critical, I'm just going to ring a little bell whenever I'm feeling self-conscious. It will be a very loud Sunday at my house. 

3. Last . . . get ready for a new website. We're putting the final touches on a new website/blog and it will launch in the next two days. I'm so excited for you to see it. I've been working with an amazing team of folks. I'll introduce you to them next week. 

The change was inspired by my photography practice. Several years ago I took photography lessons for Lent (I always try to add something that feels sacred rather than take something away). This year I'm taking an Aperture class for Lent (the Mac photography software). The new site will include a lot of pictures and quotes and creativity. 

There will also be some beautiful new badges and downloads coming. I really hope you like it as much as I do! 

If you missed the post from earlier this week about Super Soul Sunday with Oprah, it's here. The bell ringing will make more sense when you read that. 

Thank y'all for being excited with me!


"Whoa. This is big, big, big. Somebody ring some bells!" 

© Harpo, Inc 2013 | George Burns

Super Soul Sunday airs this Sunday! I can hardly believe it.

I have to be honest and tell you that I was scared to death. Not excited/scared, just scared/scared. When we pulled into the parking garage at Harpo - the garage that was so familiar because I've seen it a million times on TV -  I had this overwhelming urge to play it cool. No big deal. I'm fine. Whatever.

Thankfully, I know myself well enough to know that "cool" is one of my favorite pieces of vulnerability armor. So, during a calmer moment the day before the taping I actually wrote my own permission slip and stuck it in my pocket. It simply said:

I give you permission to be excited and goofy and uncool.
Just show up and be seen.

Well, let me tell you . . . permission granted! 

As you'll see - I was giggly and excited and totally uncool. There's this great moment during the show (you can see it here in the online preview)  where Oprah says, "Whoa! This is big, big, big. Somebody ring some bells!" It was one of my favorite moments because I thought, Wow. she's excited too! Let's ring those dang bells!

© Harpo, Inc 2013 | George Burns

The plan was to record a single episode of Super Soul Sunday but there was this crazy, intense connection between us so we filmed two episodes. I didn't have a second outfit - just jeans, cowboy boots, and a black shirt that looked just like the one I was wearing. Oprah said, "No problem. Wear your jeans and cowboy boots and borrow one of my shirts." I actually said, "Shut. Up. No. Way." Permission to be 14 years old granted. 

I'll let you know as soon as we have the dates for the second episode. 

I've never watched myself on video. I haven't even seen the TED talks. But, on Sunday I'm going to watch and live-Tweet the show with Oprah. Join us! I'm @brenebrown and she's @Oprah. You can also follow tweets at @SuperSoulSunday. 

I invited some friends and family over and we're going to do brunch and watch. I'm going to write myself another note. This time it will say, Be supportive and kind to yourself. I think I look weird - I'm way more gussied up than normal. I'm sure I'll think of one thousand ways I could have been wiser or wittier. I'll be embarrassed about my gushing. 

But you know what? I dared greatly and I can't wait to share it with all of you. This community is what I think about when I'm trying to be brave. So, join us! Host your own brunch - OWN has a great kit here. It even includes the tough Soul-to-Soul questions that Oprah asked me.

There's also a worldwide simulcast - you can get more info here. 

Permission to ring bells granted!


daring new ideas from TED 2013

It was so exciting to attend TED this year (keyword -  attend). Last year I spent the week in "speaker panic mode" which looks like lots of little anxiety attacks and a few tearful moments locked in the hotel room watching Law & Order reruns. This year I got to relax and receive. I was blown away.

As we head into the weekend I thought I'd share a few daring talks with you. 

Ron Finley: A guerilla gardner in South Central LA 

Powerful quotes: 

"Growing your own food is like printing your own money."

"Drive-thrus are killing more people than drive-bys."

"When kids grow kale, kids eat kale."

Amanda Palmer's "The Art of Asking for Help"

Powerful quotes:

"And my eyes would say, 'Thank you. I see you.' And their eyes would say, 'Nobody ever sees me. Thank you.'"

"And this hurt in a really familiar way. And people saying, "You're not allowed anymore to ask for that kind of help," really reminded me of the people in their cars yelling, "Get a job." Because they weren't with us on the sidewalk, and they couldn't see the exchange that was happening between me and my crowd, an exchange that was very fair to us but alien to them."

"But the perfect tools aren't going to help us if we can't face each other and give and receive fearlessly, but, more important, to ask without shame."

Onstage at TED2013, Sugata Mitra made his bold TED Prize wish: Help me design the School in the Cloud, a learning lab in India, where children can explore and learn from each other -- using resources and mentoring from the cloud. Hear his inspiring vision for Self Organized Learning Environments (SOLE), and learn more at

I love this quote. I know this to be true from not only from the new neuroscience research, but my own research on shame. It took my breath away:

"The reptilian part of our brain, which sits in the center of our brain, when it's threatened, it shuts down everything else, it shuts down the prefrontal cortex, the parts which learn, it shuts all of that down.

Punishment and examinations are seen as threats. We take our children, we make them shut their brains down, and then we say, "Perform."

Why did they create a system like that? Because it was needed. There was an age in the Age of Empires when you needed those people who can survive under threat. When you're standing in a trench all alone, if you could have survived, you're okay, you've passed. If you didn't, you failed.

But the Age of Empires is gone. What happens to creativity in our age? We need to shift that balance back from threat to pleasure."

Congrats to Sugata! 

I'd love to know what you think about these ideas. I'm sure we won't all agree with every point, but what makes them daring is their conversation-starting power! There are a couple of talks that haven't posted yet. I'll share them with you when they do. Have a great weekend.