daring greatly read-along #2

Sorry for the delay! We turned the book launch in London into a family trip and my schedule got a little cattywompus (as my grandmother would say). 

A huge thank you to all of the folks who attended The School of Life event and the ICF Global Conference.

Below are links to articles and books that I reference in the podcast. I'll be checking comments for follow-up questions and feedback on how to make the podcasts more helpful.

OC Blog Post: More white space.

OC Blog Post: They don't need us to be sorry, just to be present.

Terry Real's books are on the last row of this page. 

CG Jung quote that I butcher in the podcast: "We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses."

I'll be back on Wednesday evening with the audio for Chapter 2. The e-mail address to send questions is daringgreatlyquestions(at)gmail(dot)com.

Here is the iTunes link if you want to subscribe to the podcast. It normally takes a couple of hours for the podcast to upload to iTunes so it might be this evening. 

Daring Greatly Read-Along Schedule

Pages xii – 17 | September 26 | Preface + Intro

Pages 18 – 31 | October 3(ish) | Chapter 1

Pages 32 – 57  | October 10 | Chapter 2

Pages 58 – 111 | October 17 | Chapter 3

Pages 112 – 171 | October 24 | Chapter 4

Pages 172 – 183 | October 31 | Chapter 5

Pages 184 – 213 | November 7 | Chapter 6

Pages 214 – 249 | November 14 | Chapter 7 & Final Thoughts

If you're reading this post via email, click here to listen to the audio. It's approximately 23 minutes.

So grateful to be on this DARING adventure with all of you!

Daring Greatly Podcast #2

Comments

[marea]

hi brene... no worries about the late pod cast , who wouldn't celebrate being #1 on the ny times book list ...i know i would ...hope you don't burn out , you have allot going on ... really don't know how you do it ? thanks for your time... marea :)

[Stephanie]

Hi Brene...it was great seeing you in London at The School of Life talk. You were amazing!!!! Glad that you enjoyed London and the ordinary moments! :-)
Thanks for putting the podcasts up, its always fun carrying you around in my pocket, having your inspirational talks at my disposal in my most vulnerable moments...and there are quite a few of them at the moment, but hey, here is to daring greatly together!!! :-)

[Tara]

Enjoyed the podcast - or whatever it's called! Will go back and listen again, for there is a lot of information there. Great questions, and thoughtful responses from you. Since I blog, I have that question all the time about what is appropriate to share on a blog and what is not. Some personal friends of mine wonder if I am too open on the blog, but, like you, I think about my posts and ask, "is the helpful to others and is that why I'm sharing it?" If it is, then that is the goal. Even deeply personal stuff is okay if shared appropriately, because I'm saying, "Look here, folks, this is the human condition."

Thank you so much for your work. I'm incorporating your observations into my own process and it's been extremely helpful.

[Concetta at Glittering Shards]

Ooooh I wish I had known about your London book launch - would have been there ;) Looking forward to reading the book.

[Anne]

Love these podcasts! Thank you very much.

I just ran across your picture in the Shutter Sisters book. True beauty.

[Nancy Cameron]

This was (as usual) awesome! Please share your resources on men dealing with shame.

You go, Gerl!

[Becky]

Thank you for the link to your read-along, Brene. (sorry, I can't do your name correctly on mobile.)

I have so many questions, but I'm struggling with forming them right now. Maybe it'll get easier when I'm not so raw from finding out that I'm losing my job soon. I went through this last year & it was stressful. Now here I am in the same situation again. Talk about feeling vulnerable & unworthy & scarcity all at once!

[elizabeth]

Thank you for that, really. We tend to "opt out" of many things because of a real intention around spending time together as a family and slowing down, especially on weekends. I appreciate hearing your experience of doing that with your family and knowing I'm not alone.....

I hope you had a FABULOUS time in London- look forward to hearing from you on Wednesday.

[Dan Bennett]

Loving the podcasts, Brene!

I'm also glad you are giving links to your resources and the stuff you mention within the podcasts!

Thank you!

p.s. Daring Greatly ROCKS! :)

[Andrea]

This was perfect timing for me today, thank you so much!

As a step-mom, the time my husband and I get to spend with the kids is so precious and there can be struggles around saying "no" to the overwhelming amount of activities they have so we can enjoy quiet family time together, so this pod cast was incredibly validating.

[phoenix campbell]

I'm only on page 44 and already my book is water marked (bath tub reading), wine stained, marked up and dog-eared A success already.!

[Allison]

From this podcast (under my light lamp while folding laundry somewhere in New England), two things rang true. One, that scheduling white space and saying no help alleviate feelings of scarcity. Two... Well maybe I'll remember that later. The upshot is I see where our family puts some of these things into practice, and I'm looking forward to family meetings. The wheels are turning about how to engage my 2.5 year old in conversations about what we do with our time...

Two! Two was about leaning into the discomfort. For me this week it was expressing being upset about something that happened (don't hav permission to share deets). I normally would have sat on it and stewed about it, being passive aggressive and blaming (rehearsing meanness) and generally disagreeable. I have the sense that expressing displeasure is very risky to a relationship, and I did it. Funny thing is those things that I would do instead of expressing displeasure are much more damaging to a relationship.

[Tara]

Allison, expressing displeasure can be risky to a relationship, if your cohort is not on the same page as you about why it's important to engage in this way. I know. But in the end, you know that these practices enhance your feelings of worthiness and living wholeheartedly. Hard to go back to the old ways (well, maybe not so much) when your eyes have been opened.

[Denise]

Thank you for doing these podcasts - talk about added value!

Ever since my daughter could speak she has demanded her "white space" to dream, relax, play, read, or whatever she needed to be calm and happy. It has made our family life richer and more loving. Thank you for talking about this, and giving me more peace of mind that is is ok to not do it all.

When we lost my husband to colon cancer at 39, I can assure you we were grateful for the white space we had spent together as a family more than anything. Certainly more than running around trying to please other people's version of perfect.

[SARAH CHRISTINA]

Denise.........Merciful GOD in Heaven may you and your daughter find the perfect peace that will allow you to move forward in your lives.

Meanwhile......Brene is providing us a safe place to be ourselves....

From the Heart,

Sarah Christina

[gurjeet]

Certainly more than running around trying to please other people's version of perfect.

[Yonnie]

Love the podcast,Brene.I loved "the gift of imperfection" and will read in full"daring greatly",having read the abstracts.Your vulnerability ideas are so relevant to how I (don't ) manage,deal with some of my quite debilitating and character entrenched traits.Your ideas DO help me to think about these,rather painful issues.I hope for the courage to be more vulnerable.
My first child died aged 3 months old,a cot (crib) death.I was devasted naturally.But the consequences for me since then 24 years ago I believe are tied into that overwhelming belief that I had failed .There was ,is, for me a sense of Shame around my daughters death.Apart altogether from the Loss issue.I have three grown up daughters now,but my daily life is consistently driven to "prove" myself as a good mother.I think this experience has shaped my life.

[Sherry]

I've read all of Brene's books and podcast/ted talks. I enjoy learning through storytelling and enjoy the stories of family life from everyone. I am past that period in my life and am into the "grandmother" period. Having given too much my whole life to my siblings, husbands, children, I find that I am carving out my own space and only saying yes to what suits me. My children and friends now have labeled me selfish and self centered. It is hard being who I am and letting go of what others think. I always thought I didn't care what they thought.

[Sally Eberhardt]

I'm a psychotherapist who work is similar to yours I love your books and all of your marketing particularly your web site I am thinking of doing one who manages your site I assume you designed it but used someone to put it together I will try to come to a workshop when you are in the ny area salpsych3@aol.com

[Debra]

I love the podcasts. Listening now.
many, many enlightening moments. I have not read your books, but want to know more about how you tell people no. And asking for help.

[Jeanette Pickrell]

Brene,
I just finished reading Daring Greatly. I am so thankful for your insights and your willingness to share so much of yourself. Love your relevant and practical advice and suggestions!

[marea]

Sherry... I can relate ! marea LOL!!!

[Brandy]

Brené - I saw you speak at WDS and you completely wrecked me. In a good way, I think, hehe. I bought the book on Amazon shortly after it came out, finished it last week, and I've spent the day writing a review for my site in an attempt to convince people that EVERYONE should read Daring Greatly. I was so excited to come to your blog and discover the podcast! I've been wanting to read the book to my 10-year-old daughter and 65-year-old mom, but I think maybe we can listen to the podcast together and take in your words in your own voice.

Thank you for your work. It's made such a difference in my life.

Vulnerably,
Brandy

[Lisa]

I was so happy to see the podcast up and thank you for being so vulnerable and honest about being late. I loved that part. Walking your talk gf. Look forward to the next one but hope your voice feels better soon.
Lisa

[Sarah]

Thank you so much for posting these! I don’t often comment online, but I really wanted to tell you how grateful I am to you for sharing your work.
I'm a girl in my early 20s, and I struggle with...wanting people to like me, living up to expectations, being what people want me to be, making other people happy, fitting in, etc. Listening to your experiences truly inspires me to live wholeheartedly. I often end up back on your blog when I’m having an off day and it has never failed to re-energize me.

[Ed McKeogh]

Your recommendation of Terry Real's books is very much appreciated. My wife and I are reading *I Don't Want to Talk About It,* and it's been eye-opening in ways neither of us could have anticipated. I'm grateful for the work you're doing and the information you're sharing. Thank you!